Hi, I’m Ray Kaffer.

I grew up outside of Reno, Nevada and moved to Seattle in 2008. I have called the Pacific Northwest home for the past 17 years. With a short hiatus in Salt Lake City, Utah where I completed my Masters Program to become a Mental Health Therapist.

I have worked over the years in a variety of settings including individual therapy, inpatient pediatric crisis stabilization at Seattle Children’s Hospital, community youth long-term care, group practices, low-income community care with Volunteers for America and with individual private practitioners. Each rewarding in their own rite. 

I believe the true change and meaning making comes from a close, trusting relationship with your therapist.

Outside of work, you will find me playing my dog, River, and adventuring with my young family. Any chance I get I am out in nature hiking, biking, or cooking for my friends and family.

Bachelor of Science in Psychology — Seattle University 2009-2013

Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling — University of Utah 2018-2021

Ray Kaffer, M.Ed., BSP, LMHC

“I want to help you rewrite the narrative of your challenges and pains because there also is a story of change and triumph to be told about your struggle, and I'm excited to hear it.”

My Approach

My approach is heavily relationship based. I'm client-led, which means I don't see myself as an authority but instead see you as the ultimate authority on you. I hold a lot of space for the identities that show up in session. Identities like one's race, religion, sexual orientation, or gender, but also identities like "parent," "athlete," "nerd," "nature-lover," "person of faith," or "professional."

Relationship

Therapy with me is oriented first and foremost toward the process of building a connected relationship between you and me. I see our relationship as our best tool for creating change, even above factors like therapy style, theory, or approach.

Connection

I use an Interpersonal Process theory as my backbone, and that looks like bringing events and patterns from your outside life into our relationship to explore new ways of feeling and responding that can lead to new outcomes.